Looking for A Kinder World with Forgiveness

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This month, I'm going to focus on the topic of forgiveness:

· what it is,

· why it's important,

· who we need to forgive,

· how we contribute to creating hostile environments, and more.

Before we get too far in, let's start with some light humor.

Once upon a time in their marriage, Joe did something really stupid. Lisa chewed him out for it. He apologized; they made up.

However, from time to time, Lisa would mention what he had done.

"Honey," Joe finally said one day, "Why do you keep bringing that up? I thought your policy was 'forgive and forget.'”

"It is," Lisa said. "I just don't want you to forget that I've forgiven and forgotten."

Sometimes that's the way it is. We forgive but we are still holding a big stick over the offending party's head. The definition of forgiveness is to stop feeling angry or resentful toward someone for an offense, flaw, or mistake. Another explanation is to cancel a debt (financial or otherwise).

One definition addresses the feelings involved, and the second addresses the thinking towards the debt and the associated action.

Your inner game affects your outer world. If your thoughts often dwell on another person's faults, it builds towards feelings of resentment and unforgiveness for that person. Science tells us that it takes 6-7 positive thoughts to counteract 1 negative thought. This begs the question, “What do I do about it if I am so irritated or offended that I can't let it go?” I will dive into this in future blogs. Not to leave you hanging, forgiveness starts with a choice and a thought. Choose to look for the good in that person, and every time you have that negative thought, replace it with a true positive thought. You will build a new pattern in your brain.

Empowerment exercise: Ask yourself, “Am I satisfied with my relationships? If you aren't, ask yourself, “What is my part of the problem?” Is there a possibility that extending forgiveness will help move the relationship towards a fulfilling future?

Julie Sies, the owner of Exponential Functions, LLC, is an ACC Life and Leadership Coach and an Accredited Transformational Leadership Trainer. For more information, find her at www.exponentialfunctions.co